Aww! Going through my old writings on Fetlife, I found this poem I wrote nearly a decade ago!
A Fantasy
I want...
To ignore you...
I want to lie across a bed on my stomach, my skirt hiked up to my hips baring my round, luscious ass...
and paint my nails...
as you desperately... silently...
edge to the sight of my ass and legs...
the shadowed hint of my cunt...
the chill of my utter disdain...
I want to ignore you...
as you ride on the edge of pleasure... teetering until your cock aches
no words spoken...
until you beg me for a release...
which I may... or may not allow
Ignore Fetish is a unique and intriguing form power exchange that can captivate and enthrall both a submissive. Delve into the captivating world of Ignore Roleplay, exploring its nuances, the psychological aspects, and how it contributes to the dynamics of power exchange and submission.
Understanding Ignore Fetish:
At its essence, Ignore Fetish or Ignore Roleplay involves the Dominant purposefully ignoring their submissive, typically, for a predetermined period. This deliberate act of ignoring can manifest in various forms, such as refraining from responding to messages, turning away in person, or creating a scenario where the submissive feels neglected. The power dynamics at play are compelling, as the submissive willingly surrenders to the control of the dominant, experiencing a tumultuous mix of emotions, including longing, vulnerability, and ultimately, submission.
Psychological Impact of Ignore Fetish:
The psychological impact of ignore roleplay is profound. It delves into the realms of emotional manipulation and power dynamics. For the submissive, being ignored by their dominant can evoke a deep sense of yearning and vulnerability. They willingly subject themselves to the dominance of their partner, embracing the emotional turmoil that comes with being deliberately neglected. This creates a unique psychological headspace, where the submissive is compelled to navigate feelings of isolation, longing, and an intense desire for reconnection. Meanwhile, the dominant revels in the power they hold over the submissive, orchestrating the emotional rollercoaster and dictating the terms of reconnection.
Exploring Power Dynamics:
Ignore Fetish is a striking demonstration of power dynamics within a BDSM relationship (whether paid or personal). The deliberate act of ignoring reinforces the dominance of the controlling partner while highlighting the submissive's desire for attention and validation. This dynamic exchange is rooted in trust and mutual understanding, as you willingly surrender to the emotional turmoil orchestrated by me as your cruel Domme. The intentional disregard creates a power imbalance that fuels the psychological and emotional intensity of the experience.
Ways to Play:
How many ways can I ignore you? Darling, let me count the ways!
Ignore Fetish Content: Typically a video of your Domina doing day to day activities without looking at the camera. I may do my nails, draw, do yoga. Whatever I'm doing, I know you're watching but I'm not going to give you the satisfaction of eye contact or acknowledgement. An Ignore video is can be great if you're not in a position to do a live session or if you want to get a taste before committing to a full booking.
Phone Ignore: Schedule a phone call and after I answer, I completely neglect you. You may be able to hear me typing on my computer, breathing heavy while I work out, or if you're really lucky (and can afford it) listen in on my pleasure!
Video Ignore: Similar to phone ignore, only now you can also see me (maybe). I may "forget" that you are there and walk out of the room completely! Perhaps, I turn the camera towards a wall or a mirror, os you can only kind of see what I'm getting up to. Again, it's likely I'll go about my day, as if you're not even there while you pine for my attention.
In-Person Ignore: For many, this is the most intense kind of ignore. You're right there, in the presence of your Goddess... and I have no use for you. To many, this can be even more dehumanizing than being a piece of furniture but it's also the most intimate. You can see me, hear me, smell me. My favorite in-person ignore is to invite a girlfriend over for tea and chat away like you're not even there!
Setting Parameters for an Ignore Fetish Scene
How do you know when we've begun? How do you know when it's over?! These are probably the two most common questions I get from friends about Ignore Fetish. Just like any other BDSM scene, there is negotiation, consent, limits, and a beginning, middle, and end. Things to keep in mind in a negotiation are:
- How long is the scene and for how long will you be ignored?
- Will there be any other form of play before or after being ignored?
- Will there be occasional check-ins during the ignoring phase?
- When I check-in, will I be nice or nasty about it?
- If verbal humiliation is involved, what words are off limits?
- Do we need to work aftercare into scene time? What will that look like?
In conclusion, Ignore Fetish is a compelling and intricate facet of BDSM that delves deep into the complexities of power dynamics, emotional manipulation, and submission. When approached with clear communication, mutual trust, and respect, Ignore scenes can create an intense and fulfilling psychodrama of degradation, humiliation, and, perhaps above all, escape.